They Will Become One Flesh (Mark 10:1-12)
Marriage is the greatest blessing and joy for humanity. Every tribe and people maintain the tradition of marriage. The smallest unit that forms society is the family. The path to forming a family is marriage. Marriage is a joy and a blessing, and at the same time, a challenge and a process. It can be a space of love, peace, serenity, and joy, while at the same time, the danger of becoming a place of pain, sorrow, conflict, and strife lies in wait.
In Mark 10:1-12, Jesus taught the essence of marriage to the Jews who asked about divorce. Marriage was ordained by God, and it is for a man to leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate; to do so is to commit adultery. The secret of union with God is hidden within marriage.
Teaching the Gospel of the Kingdom
1 Jesus then left that place and went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them. 2 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" (Mark 10:1-2).
Jesus taught the people the gospel of the kingdom. This is because what people need most is the gospel of the kingdom of God. This visible world is not our hope. According to the second law of thermodynamics, all things decay and disappear. It is clear that what is defiled and perishing is not our hope (1 Peter 1:4).
So, wherever he went, Jesus taught people the gospel of the kingdom of heaven through various parables and signs and wonders of healing the sick. Like the parable of the sower, the word of God falls and is planted in the soil of people's hearts. The seed of the word grows and bears fruit, producing a crop, multiplying thirty, sixty, or even a hundred times (Matthew 13:8). By hearing, understanding, responding to, and obeying the word of God, it continues to grow.
However, the seed that fell along the path, on rocky ground, or among thorns cannot grow and does not bear fruit (Matthew 13:4-7). Failing to bear fruit means being cast away. A hardened heart, a heart that cannot take root, and a heart stained with anxiety, worry, and care prevent one from bearing fruit. If you hear the word but do not understand and obey it, even what you have will be taken away, and there is no growth.
Is It Lawful To Divorce One's Wife?
Some Pharisees asked this to test Jesus. They had no intention of learning. In their eyes, Jesus looked like an outlaw who ignored the Law of Moses. As so-called religious authorities, they monitored and controlled people.
However, they were hypocrites who claimed to keep the Law while cleverly ignoring it. They created the Corban tradition and disobeyed God's commandment to honor one's father and mother (Mark 7:11). Through monitoring and control, they burdened the people with loads they could hardly carry, yet they themselves would not lift a finger to help (Matthew 23:4).
They were desperate to remove Jesus of Nazareth, who was a thorn in their side, by any means possible. This time, they brought up the issue of divorce to test him. This issue is a difficult and painful topic. It is a reality that countless families are broken and destroyed. There are only losers in divorce. It causes deep wounds to each other, and above all, to the children.
"Is it lawful to divorce one's wife?" This was largely a male-centered thought. It was a male-dominated society at the time. A nuance of regarding women as consumables is hidden within it. One can see that they were gripped by a wrong, twisted, and self-centered thought that they could abandon their wives whenever a reason arose.
Based on Deuteronomy 24:1, the Jews of that time allowed a man to divorce his wife if he found something indecent about her, including not only adultery but also if the wife’s cooking did not please him or if she could not bear children.
Your Hearts Were Hard
3 "What did Moses command you?" he replied. 4 They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away." 5 "It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied (Mark 10:3-5).
If Jesus opposed divorce, it would be in direct opposition to the Law of Moses (Deut. 24:1). Moses permitted divorce but commanded that a certificate of divorce be written to send the woman away. The certificate of divorce served to protect women in a male-dominated society. Socially, the certificate of divorce granted the woman the qualification to remarry. Unlike today, a woman without a husband had many restrictions on her social and economic activities (Isaiah 4:1).
However, Jesus said that Moses allowed the certificate of divorce for a more fundamental reason. Here, it was because of the husband’s hard heart. A hard heart disobeys and rebels against the word of God. It is the work of the devil. Such a person dislikes keeping God in his heart, considers God’s interference as an annoyance, and rejects and refuses Him.
God hardened the heart of Pharaoh, the king of Egypt (Exodus 7:3, 9:12). The king stubbornly refused Moses' demand to let the Israelites go. As a result, God poured out His wrath from heaven, and ten plagues came upon the land of Egypt. Pharaoh was proud and did not listen to Moses, but ignored and despised him.
God’s hardening of his heart means that He allowed him to arrogantly ignore and despise the words of Moses. However, there are always consequences for this (Romans 1:18). The ten plagues, including the tenth plague on the firstborn, are exactly that (Exodus 7:14–12:51). The consequences of disobeying God’s word are unavoidable (Romans 1:18).
God, through Moses, commanded that a certificate of divorce be written and the wife be sent away because He knew their stubborn hearts were not willing to obey God’s word (1 Samuel 8:8). However, they must bear the consequences of the pain and wounds experienced through divorce.
Generally, everyone wants a home that is harmonious and happy. They want a relationship of mutual understanding, service, and love. However, the reality is that the pressures and challenges are not easy. From managing the household to raising children, differences of opinion and conflicts are exposed in various areas. The reality is that not a few families eventually end in ruin. The existence of divorce is evidence that there is a problem in the home.
The Pharisees tested Jesus with an attitude that forced Him to approve of divorce. This well reflects their stubborn hearts, which believed that divorce was natural. They did not understand at all God’s intention in having Moses command that a certificate of divorce be written and the wife be sent away, and they sought only their own benefit.
God Made Them Male And Female
6 "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' 7 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." 10 When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. 11 He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery" (Mark 10:6–12).
Furthermore, Jesus returned to the time of creation and taught the meaning of the essence of marriage. From the beginning, God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them (Genesis 1:27). A secret of union is hidden in marriage. Union is when two different individuals join together to become one. God the Father is always in the Son, Jesus Christ, and the Son is in the Father; it is a relationship of perfect union. Likewise, in Christ, we have united with God through His blood.
"that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me" (John 17:21).
God created Adam first and said it is not good for him to live alone, so He would create a helper for him (Genesis 2:18). And He commanded Adam to name the wild animals and the birds of the air that He had formed from the ground (2:19). This task was vast and took a considerable amount of time. Why did God command him to do this? It was to teach Adam the fact that among all the wild animals and birds, there was no helper suitable for him.
And God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, took one of his ribs, created a woman, and brought her to Adam. While God was creating the woman, Adam was in a deep sleep and did not perceive what was happening. This shows that God knew beforehand that Adam needed a helper and filled that need.
God brought the woman to Adam, and he said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man" (Genesis 2:23). Adam saw the woman whom God had created and knew she was a part of him. It was something new that he had not discovered at all while naming the animals and birds. Only then did Adam find the partner he truly wanted.
The Two Shall Become One Flesh
God presided over the marriage of Adam and the woman and made them one flesh. He said that a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Because they are one flesh, they cannot be separated. In response to the question about divorce, Jesus said, "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate" (Matthew 19:6).
Then, how do we become one flesh? Once married, you have become one flesh, and it is a long process of realizing this fact throughout one's life. Men and women are different in many ways. In physical and mental aspects, men and women are different, but their spirits are the same. This spirit refers to the Spirit of God (רוּחַ - Ruach). Because they are beings in whom the Spirit of God dwells, there is no difference between man and woman.
In particular, the love, joy, and satisfaction enjoyed in a marriage relationship are unique and cannot be found anywhere else. God blessed us to enjoy sexual ecstasy and satisfaction within the marriage relationship. Through sexual union, men and women attain the pleasure of orgasm. This ecstasy cannot be obtained anywhere else; it is possible only within the marriage relationship. This secret that God has hidden within the marriage relationship is a foreshadowing of the perfect fullness we will enjoy in His kingdom in the future.
The marriage relationship is a process of pain and challenges. After the dream-like period of the honeymoon passes, weaknesses and shortcomings that were not visible before begin to stand out, and dissatisfaction and conflict arise. As the saying goes, "Every tide has its ebb," a marriage relationship cannot always be good. Difficulties and challenges constantly rush in from all sides.
There is no way that the omniscient and omnipotent God the Father would not know this fact. God joined different men and women together and hid the secret of becoming one flesh. That secret is to love one another. To love one another, the power and authority of God and His Son Jesus Christ are necessary.
God commanded wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord, and husbands to love their wives just as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:22–23, 25–33). Therefore, submitting to God, empowered by the sacrificial love of Christ who did not spare His own life for us, is the way to become one.
Therefore, what God has joined together, man cannot separate. The only ground for divorce is adultery. Because adultery destroys the contractual relationship of marriage, one can divorce (Matthew 19:9). Apart from this, divorcing for any other reason is committing adultery.
Amen!
June 14, 2026
Buffalo Livingstone Church ©2026, David Lee Ministries ©2026 – All Rights Reserved.
Scripture quotes are from the NIV.